Thursday, September 13, 2012

Faith

Dearest Victoria,

We will be on our way to see you again in less than two weeks!  I knew this time would fly by and it has. I want to share something with you and have it written down so that I remember it.  The last week has been a bit difficult as your country is going through some changes in their adoption laws and it is requiring more paperwork/procedures for us.  Also there is hesitation coming from people from your orphanage as they don't understand why we would want to adopt a child that has Down syndrome.  They do not understand why it is so important for you to have a family to love and care for you.  The opportunity to shine and be seen by the world.  In their culture they believe that children with special needs, need to be under the care of nurses in an institution.  We are breaking new ground and trying to show them how you will thrive being part of a family and going to school.

As these new requirements have developed I started feeling very anxious and worried about our court date coming up.  I thought of everything that could possibly go wrong and felt helpless and scared.  Thank goodness for your Dad because he reminded me of a talk given by Elder Jeffery R. Holland, a leader in the LDS church, that I feel was written just for me.  Cast Not Away Therefore Your Confidence  He talks about personal revelation and tells how the story of Moses parting the Red Sea is a great example of revelation.  He was doing what the Lord asked of him in leading the Children of Israel out of bondage, but still came upon obstacles in the process.  Even when it seemed so impossible when they were surrounded and faced the Red Sea in their path, the Lord provided.  Miraculously the Sea parted and they were able to escape and Moses was able to lead them through it.  This was all possible because the Lord was helping him.

"Moses' message to you today is, "Don't let your guard down." Don't assume that a great revelation, some marvelous illuminating moment, or the opening of an inspired path is the end of it. Remember, it isn't over until it's over."

We are continually being reminded that Heavenly Father is paving the way before us and even when set backs come we must remember that He is still here, orchestrating this journey.


"I wish to encourage every one of you today regarding opposition that so often comes after enlightened decisions have been made, after moments of revelation and conviction have given us a peace and an assurance we thought we would never lose. "


"After you have gotten the message, after you have paid the price to feel his love and hear the word of the Lord, "go forward." Don't fear, don't vacillate, don't quibble, don't whine. You may, like Alma going to Ammonihah, have to find a route that leads an unusual way, but that is exactly what the Lord was doing here for the children of Israel. Nobody had ever crossed the Red Sea this way, but so what? There's always a first time. With the spirit of revelation, dismiss your fears and wade in with both feet. In the words of Joseph Smith, "Brethren [and, I would add, sisters], shall we not go on in so great a cause? Go forward and not backward. Courage, brethren; and on, on to the victory!" (D&C 128:22)."

"The third lesson from the Lord's spirit of revelation in the miracle of the crossing of the Red Sea is that, along with the illuminating revelation that points us toward a righteous purpose or duty, God will also provide the means and power to achieve that purpose. Trust in that eternal truth. If God has told you something is right, if something is indeed true for you, he will provide the way for you to accomplish it."

I'm trying really hard to strengthen my faith and remember that yes, Heavenly Father did tell me and your dad that adopting you was right and so we must continue to remember that and the many miracles that have gotten us this far.  He will not leave us now, He is with us to the end, and will goon even after you are home with us.  

The lesson in Relief Society on Sunday was also very valuable to us at this time.  I would like to share of few excerpts from it, the title is "The Strengthening Power of Faith", by President George Albert Smith, a past prophet of our church.

"Faith is a gift from the Lord through which the righteous are empowered to do remarkable things"

"It is this principle, my brethren and sisters, that points us heavenward, that gives us hope in the battle of life.  When we become confused, and find ourselves confronted by obstacles we seemingly, cannot overcome, having faith in the Redeemer of the world, we can go to Him and know that our prayers will be answered for our good."

"Now remember, give the Lord a chance.  You are going to ask a favor.  Give the Lord a chance.  Ask him to open the way."

"The Lord has a way of accomplishing things that we are unable to do, and never asks us to do anything that he does not make the way possible.  That is what he told us through Nephi.  He will not require anything without preparing the way."

"If you have something that the Lord asks or expects you to do and you don't know just how to proceed, do your best.  Move in the direction that you ought to go; trust the Lord, give him a chance, and he will never fail you.  

"What a wonderful thing it is to know that we can if we will hold our Heavenly Father's hand and be guided by him."

We will do as Elder Holland and President Smith advised by GOING FORWARD, doing our best, and trusting that the Lord will make up the difference.  We know that many people will be praying for us as we go before the judge and that her heart and the others making decisions in your country will understand why we want you in our family.  Why we would go such great lengths to get you.  You are worth it!  You are a daughter of God and He has a plan for your life.  We are so blessed to be a part of that plan.  I can't wait to see you!  I'll be counting the days until we meet again.

Love Mommy

It won't be long until you are part of this picture!





Monday, August 20, 2012

Court Date

Dear Victoria,

WE HAVE A COURT DATE!!!  We will be coming back to your country the end of September and will get to see you again.  Then on October 1st we will meet with the Judge and go over everything and explain why we want to adopt you.  We are so excited that we finally have court date and plane tickets to come back to see you again and keep the ball rolling.  If everything goes well in court we will just have to wait 30 days to bring you home.  We will come back home, get everything together and ready for you and then be on our way to come and get you!  Can you believe it? There is an end in sight :)

Love Mommy

Sunday, July 29, 2012

Court Paperwork

Dear Victoria,

We have been busy the last month since we saw you.  We had lots of documents to gather and prepare in order to submit for a court date in your country.  We were very happy to get it all together and mailed to your country this week!  Now we get to play the waiting game again.  We are hoping to get back to see you and for our court trial in September.  In the mean time we will be studying and preparing to go before the judge to plead our case for adopting you.  We are learning that up until this point there has never been a child with Down syndrome adopted in your city.  I really can't believe that and it just breaks my heart.  There were so many sweet children with Down syndrome in your orphanage.  I'm hoping that we can prove to the judge and other officials there that we can care for you and provide you with a family and a life that will help you reach your greatest potential.  We can't wait to get you home and see you soar.

Our good friends that use to be our next door neighbor are doing a fundraiser for you this coming Saturday, August 4th.   We would love if anyone living close by could help us spread the word.


Love Mommy

Wednesday, June 27, 2012

Visit #4

Dear Victoria,

I'm finally getting around to posting about our 4th visit with you.  It was magical.  It was like you figured out we were there just. for. you.   You were so much more excited to see us, and when you spotted us down the road you let go of your teachers hand and ran to us.  You even tried testing the waters to see what you could get away with us :)  Snatching my packet of gum and some other fun things.  Somehow you figured out you could get away with more with me, so hopefully you don't remember that when we come home :)  You are so curious and are going to have so many things to check out when we get you home.  Good thing I've been running a lot this summer, I'm going to need to be in shape to keep up with you and yours sisters.

You loved the little bow that we brought you from home and had me put it right in your hair.

After our wonderful visit we walked you up to your room and you were so excited to take the toys we brought into your class.  You filled your hands with everything you could and busted through the door holding them above you head.  The other kids went wild with excitement.  It was so cute!  It was definitely hard to walk away from the orphanage that day, knowing that we wouldn't be coming back the next day, and that you would be expecting us.  The social worker promised to take our book of family pictures into you everyday and look through them with you so you don't forget us.  Its been so reassuring knowing that you will be well taken care of while we are away.

I stayed up late the other night compiling your pictures into a little video.  I'm going to put it on the iPad so your sisters can watch it lots and get to know you!  We love you so muh and can't wait till we get to come back to see you again!

Love Mommy

















Thursday, June 21, 2012

Visit #3

Dear Kaelyn & Bryn,

I was happy to hear that you both had a good day today and that you slept all through the night for Tiffany.  I'm sure you are having so much fun!  Thanks for being such good girls so that Daddy and I could make this trip to meet Victoria.

Today was another great day with her.  It was so fun to watch her walk up the sidewalk towards us.  She had the cutest little pony tail right on top of her head.  She came up and gave us both hugs and then went straight for the backpack.  She was excited to see the baby doll that we brought her, and was able to take it back to her room with her when it was time for us to leave.  She was much more silly today and we are all feeling more comfortable with each other.  There were a few times that she let our the cutest little laughs, I will have to post a video when we get home.

I can't believe tomorrow is our last visit and then we come home on Saturday.  Its not going to be easy to walk away from her orphanage at the end of our visit, but I just keep telling myself that its all part of the plan.  We will get home and quickly gather the remainder of our paperwork so we can get back here for court as soon as possible.

Little Victoria has learned that she has us both wrapped around her little fingers.  She would walk from one end of the playground to the other just to see us follow her.  Then she would tell us to sit down next to her.  One time she even climbed up on my lap and we got some great pictures of her.  We did some spins around and around, just the way you like it Kaelyn.  She was so happy, she smiled more today than the other two days combined.  She is so curious about the world around her, she is going to have so much to keep her busy when we finally get her home.  I can't wait to show her this big beautiful world!

See you soon girls,

Love Mommy

































Wednesday, June 20, 2012

Visit #2

Dear Kaelyn and Bryn,

We had another great visit with Victoria today.  We were able to play outside with her.  Right when she got there she came up and gave me and daddy great big hugs.  She loved the toy phone that we brought, the one that you two loved so much.  She would push the buttons and then walk around to everyone and hold it up to each of our ears so we could say hello Vika.  We played catch again with the green ball and she started getting mischievous and throwing it extra far into the bushes so she could do some exploring.  She reminds me so much of you Kaelyn, it makes me smile to think of the three of you getting into mischief together.  She loves to run around and her favorite activity of the day was having us lift her up so she could throw the ball through the basketball rim.  She just wanted to do it over and over, so when we all got tired we tried to distract her and get her to kick the ball into the soccer goal, but she went right back to the basketball hoop and insisted we lift her up.


She also did more coloring and bubble chasing and blowing.  She is so good to put each crayon away when she is done with it before she pulls out the next crayon.  We got to give her some strawberry fruit snacks today and she loved them.  After our play time was up we got to walk with her up to her room and watch as she took off her extra layer of clothes and shoes and put on her inside shoes all by herself.  She is such a big girl and will be a great example to her younger sisters.  She was very excited to show us that she was wearing a big red hair bow today.  She kept looking at the pictures of you two and pointing out your bows and then pointing to her bow.  I can't wait to give her the cute pink bow I brought from home for her.  I'll be sure to take a picture of her wearing it.


We miss you and can't wait to see you soon.  We will be sure to bring you something fun home from Victoria's country and tell you all about our trip when we get home.  It will be very hard to leave Victoria in a few days, but it is so nice knowing she is being so well cared for.  Even the man at the security gate told us how happy he is for the little girl that will get to come home with our family.


Love Mommy